I am putting myself back out there. Did I ever mention how much I hate dating? Because I really hate it.
People hide their intentions and flaws. On purpose. This would be okay if they were just minor flaws or decent intensions. I’m also just picky. I just don’t want to live my life with certain things. Like pot/marijuana for an example. It is illegal in my state, so I literally don’t want to date someone who might go to jail over something stupid and controllable. I’m young enough that I don’t want to deal with someone’s child support issues. Or even raising their kid. I want kids. I just don’t want yours. I feel that I young enough that there is no need to subject myself to these issues. There are enough fish in the see at 31 to not have to deal with it.
Then there are their intentions. I’m very forth coming on my intentions. I want to get married and have children— in that order. No- I’m not looking for a random guy to fill that spot. But dude- it’s open and that’s what I want. Just seeing where it goes just tells me that you don’t know what you want. There’s dating to find out if you want to be with me, then there’s dating with no intentions. I don’t believe you’re going to wake up one day and decide to marry me. I would just be dangling on until I had enough and left. Now it does happen where a person will realize that they want to get married all of a sudden, but it’s usually not with the person you’ve been stringing along. It’s usually with a person who has set those expectations and you’ve decided to meet them. This “just see where it goes” just does not work with me.
My dating list— wishlist
MUST BE SINGLE
No Kids (but does want kids)
Stable job (can be trying to get a stable job, but doesn’t quit for stupid reasons- responsible adult)
Owns a car
I am attracted to him
Can take care of himself and his life
Preferably has their own place- I want to be with an adult
No loose ends with exes (this is a new one and has to be added)
Doesn’t purposefully make me feel insecure
Will hug me when I cry
Can understand the word NO
Listens to me
I feel important to them (ie— not ignoring me on their phone on the first date)
Is attracted to me
Doesn’t try to change me
Lets me know what’s going on in their life (so I can be apart of their life)
Tries to be apart of my life
Honestly, I really don’t think I ask for much. The only one men can’t control is if I am attracted to them or not. Almost all of these should be on everyone’s list.